How to Prepare for an R U OK? Call

Starting a conversation to check on someone’s well-being is meaningful but can feel daunting. Here are a few tips to help you prepare and determine if now is the right time to reach out:

1. Check In With Yourself

  • Are you in the right headspace? Approach the conversation with a positive attitude and an open mind. Your mood can influence how the discussion flows.
  • Do you have the time? Ensure you can dedicate enough time to the conversation as it might take longer than you expect.
  • Do you have the patience to listen? Being fully present and actively listening is key.

    2. Choose the Right Setting

  • Find a comfortable and private space where both of you can talk without interruptions.
  • Check that the other person is also free to chat and not busy with work, studies, or other commitments.

3. Prepare for Possible Responses

  • If they say, “No, I’m not fine”:
    • Be ready to listen without judgment.
    • Remember, you’re not expected to solve their problems. It’s okay to acknowledge the limits of your support.
    • If the situation requires professional help, let them know you can assist in finding resources. Explore options like our Find Help guide, which includes information and guidance from experts.

  • If they say, “I’m fine”:
    • Understand they might not be ready or willing to share at the moment.
    • It’s not personal. Your interest still shows them they matter and are not alone.
    • Let them know you’re available if they ever want to talk in the future.

  1. Focus on What Matters

The goal of the conversation is not to have all the answers, it’s to show that you care. Your openness and willingness to listen can make a significant impact, even if they don’t open up immediately.

Remember:

An R U OK? conversation is about connection. Your care and presence can help someone feel supported, valued, and less alone.